Ben and Marina Fogle
Ben and Marina Fogle were married in 2006.They have recently given an interview in which they recommend that all couples undergo 'Marriage MOTs': yearly appointments with a marriage counsellor to talk about differences and challenges that every marriage experiences before a crisis.
Marina says, "Until recently, giving our marriage an MOT was something that Ben and I had talked about but never got around to doing . . . Had we heeded my friend’s advice eight years ago, I believe that we would have matured emotionally sooner, have been able to support each other better and possibly deal with the challenges we’ve encountered more efficiently. Eight years of marriage has taught me that this relationship is about learning; it is a journey in which the landscape and characters change constantly. If you can learn how to be strong while the going is easy, you will be better equipped for the more challenging terrain when it comes."
Ben says, "Marriage is like a living, organic thing. It keeps you on your toes. A yearly MOT with a third party who isn’t as emotionally invested can bring a unique viewpoint and a reminder of how lucky you are. It encourages perspective and honesty. For many, therapy is seen as an admission of weakness, vulnerability and failure. On the contrary, I’d argue it’s about taking control of your marriage before the cracks appear."
L-R John Humphries, Samantha Singer, Susan Jacklin QC, Kate Spicer, Dr Samantha Callan, Sir Paul Coleridge.
The Marriage Foundation and Sunday Times debate, "Is there a difference between marriage and cohabitation: should all cohabiting couples be treated the same?", was held on 8th January 2015. You can see the video of the debate here.