The Sunday Times: Marshmallow or marriage? The greatest test of a human being

13-Jun-2016

It’s tempting to think of marriage as old-fashioned. Why not just live with someone and be done with it? Yet it survives. All kinds of practical benefits seem associated with being married, writes Alain de Botton

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Tie the knot to boost children’s mental health, couples told

29-May-2016

New research by Marriage Foundation shows that marriage significantly improves the self-esteem of teenagers and improves their life chances. Children with parents in a stable long-term cohabiting relationship did not see any benefit.

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The context

Attitudes to marriage are shaped by people’s experiences of their own relationships, and those of their parents, peers and public figures. There is both an unexpected wealth and diversity of support for marriage, as well as more negative but resonant views. This is the milieu of influence within which the Marriage Foundation must work.

“I turn 76 in October and I have never been anywhere near marriage before. It took a long time for a bit of common sense to enter my befuddled brain.”

Michael Winner — BBC News 
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-14976529

 

“Before I got married, I didn’t hold any store by it. My parents were divorced when I was 11 and it made such a profound impression on my life that I suppose I thought that by not getting married, you could avoid your life being carved in two. But that changed.”

Richard E Grant — The Independent 
http://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/how-we-met-richard-e-grant-and-joan-washington-1439383.html
 

“Now here is a message to those young aspiring men here tonight. I would remind you what it is to be a successful man, and what is one’s prize possession in life. It has absolutely nothing at all to do with money, academic achievement, or any material things. A real successful man puts the love of his wife and children first.”

Alan Sugar — The Daily Mail 

 http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1018990/How-Sir-Alan-Sugar-celebrated-40th-wedding-anniversary-2m-party.html#ixzz1mT2lhtPX

“The truth is I believed that
 marriage traps you.”

Celia Imrie — The Daily Telegraph 
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/tvandradio/8441832/Celia-Imrie-the-screen-matriarch-who-couldnt-bear-to-be-married.html
 

“I don’t believe in marriage, certainly not in this business. The truth is that you get married and in a year or two they clean you out.”

Simon Cowell — The Daily Telegraph 
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/celebritynews/7399980/Even-Simon-Cowells-marriage-is-all-about-him.html

“I have been there and done that . . . . All it is, is a piece of paper.”

Jodie Kidd — The Daily Telegraph
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/active/8804373/Jodie-Kidd-says-marriage-is-more-than-a-piece-of-paper.html